Overcoming pride and embracing practicality can make a profound difference in how we handle our responsibilities, especially when it comes to providing for our families. For instance, taking seemingly small roles in the acting world might not bring glamour, but it ensures stability—a crucial factor for anyone, especially those with dependents. It’s a lesson about humility and the importance of steady work, no matter the perceived prestige.
Working at McDonald’s during high school initially filled me with shame. Assigned to the front counter, I found myself ducking behind the grill when peers appeared, embarrassed by my uniform and role. Looking back as an adult, I realize the folly in that shame. Early morning shifts and the hustle of fast food service are nothing to scoff at—they’re honest work. Now, I would wholeheartedly support my own children if they chose similar jobs, knowing they’re gaining valuable independence and work ethic.
In 2016, I began driving for Uber amidst planning for a new family. Unlike some, who might dabble in such work for experiential writing or quick cash, I dove in deep, completing over 500 rides. Despite previous high-status employment in finance, I found dignity in this work. It was a real check on my pride, especially when I encountered former professional acquaintances during rides. Such moments were uncomfortable, but they reinforced a valuable lesson: work does not define our worth.
The quest for status can lead us to feel “less than” when we compare ourselves to others in more prestigious positions. I’ve learned to combat these feelings by engaging in “exposure therapy”—taking on jobs that might not match the previous high-status roles to maintain humility and gain a broader perspective. This approach has helped me accept that my value isn’t tied to a job title or the perceptions of others.
Driving for Uber, coaching high school tennis, and even embracing fatherhood have all been parts of my journey in mental fortitude and practicality. These experiences have not only prepared me for unexpected challenges but also allowed me to appreciate the simplicity and direct impact of honest, hard work.
It’s essential to do whatever it takes to support your family, even if it means taking on roles that might not come with acclaim or high pay. What matters is the ability to look past societal judgments and focus on the real priorities: stability, family well-being, and setting a positive example for our children about the value of work.
If you’ve ever felt embarrassed by your job or judged for not maintaining a certain status, remember, you’re not alone. Many face these challenges, and there’s strength in acknowledging them and pushing forward, regardless of outside opinions. After all, at the end of the day, it’s not about the job you do; it’s about the reasons behind it—providing for your loved ones and finding personal fulfillment in your contributions, no matter the form they take.
