Ever wondered who foots the bill when you’re the potential client? I pondered this recently when I met Sally, a realtor I was considering hiring. It all started at an open house where her extensive knowledge caught my attention. We decided to continue our conversation over drinks sometime later.
Realtors are always seeking new clients, and I’m eager to stay updated on the real estate scene. This isn’t about whether now’s the time to buy property but rather about who picks up the tab.
So, Who Pays The Bill?
The last time I let a woman pay was never, especially not for someone I hardly know. Even with new male acquaintances, I always foot the bill—it’s how I was raised.
I asked Twitter if I should pay as a prospective client and got varied responses. Some called it sexist to even think about it. It seems sharing doubts publicly invites criticism. I get why people keep such questions to themselves.
The Conflict
I hesitated because I didn’t want Sally to think I was presumptuous or sexist for paying. I didn’t want her to feel obligated to reciprocate just because I’m the guy.
But few women I’ve been out with insist on paying, and when they do, it’s more out of courtesy than seriousness. I appreciate that—avoiding that awkward moment when the bill arrives and no one grabs it.
I grew up in a culture where fighting to pay is the norm. I’ve seen parents practically wrestle over the check and friends sneaking off to settle the bill secretly.
BYOB: Bring Your Own Balls
If you’re determined to pay, go for it. It’s like being on a tennis court where your opponent, despite losing streaks, asks if you have balls—it’s a tennis club, of course, balls are available. If we’re having drinks, count on me to cover the tab.
That’s what happened with Sally. I paid the $60 bill; she didn’t offer, and I didn’t expect her to. I was glad to pay, and she appreciated the chance to know me better.
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What do you think? Is it fair for men to want to pay, or should women be more assertive about splitting the bill? Let’s discuss in the comments below!
